Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Blog-tember Day 20 | 20 Things I Wish More People Knew

Hello friends and happy Tuesday! I am taking a break from all the studying and lecture listening to write this blog. I'm so excited to read all of your blogs today. I'm sure I'll learn a thing or two :)

Today's Prompt: Something(s) you wish more people knew or believed:

Embracing our authentic story and all the parts we like and don't like is incredibly brave.

Being different is not bad.

God is not a gender. God isn't a Dutch male. And "He" doesn't just live inside an evangelical church.

Advocating for LGBTQ rights does NOT threaten heterosexual marriages. 

 I'm NOT a therapist 24/7. This is my job, not my lifestyle. It is really hard when people need you to always be the wise, perfectly neutral, objective and empathetic friend. Sometimes I just want to say, "that was a dumb decision" and it be okay every once in awhile.

Safe people respect your boundaries and your "no".

Diets don't work but self-love does. (95% of diets don't work).  Weight loss industries make 60 billion dollars in the U.S. so they actually make money off of it not working for us. They need repeat costumers to pay their mortgage! Our idea of what beautiful is has been entirely manipulated by culture. But it doesn't have to be this way. We don't all have to be tall, thin and white to beautiful. Once again, different is good. Every skin color is beautiful. Every body shape and size is worth respecting and loving.

Candles, coffee and cute puppies DO make everything better.

Just because it's working or successful doesn't mean it's God's will. Doing something you hate doesn't make you more holy.

Feminism is the radical notion that women are people.

Gilmore Girls RULES. (although most people already know this)

There is no shame in asking for help and seeing a therapist.

Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental disorder. Speaking up and advocating for your family and friends who struggle is very important. It's not just a phase, a diet or "they just don't have an appetite" situation.

It doesn't need to be perfect in order to experience joy or happiness. And #newsflash everyone has a little bit of mess.

Comparison is a life sucker and a poop head.  "Creativity, which is the expression of our originality, helps us stay mindful that what we bring to the world is completely original and cannot be compared." -Brene Brown

Good sleep and good food can change your life. #mymomwasright

The "sensitive ones" are just paying attention.

No one knows what you want or need unless you communicate it.

Having anxiety doesn't mean you "just don't trust God enough". It might mean you are genetically pre-disposed to anxiety or you live in a stressful environment. It could be nurture or nature. Your system could be overly flooded with norephinephrine or cortisol but it's not about you not trusting, believing or praying enough.  To simplify anxiety (when 40 million  adults in the U.S. have clinical anxiety) it is to invalidate all of it's complexities

It's okay (and essential) to treat yo self. :)


  1. Candles, coffee and cute puppies DO make everything better. --- YESSSSSS such a perfect sentence

  2. What a fabulous post!! Love this! I adore the Gilmore Girls, furbabies are everything right with the world and the only thing better than coffee and candles are coffee (& cream) scented candles :) yes, these exist and they are glorious :) Another brilliant post Heather as always, thank you for sharing dear wee friend, hugs xxx

  3. Gilmore girls! Brene Brown! Treat yo self! Yes, yes, and Amen! :)

    And I agree, I wish we could take away the stigma of going to see a counselor/therapist. Asking someone else to objectively look at your life and help you is not weak, but wise!

  4. The most brilliant line in your post: "Comparison is a life sucker and a poop head."