tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post432165792857752180..comments2023-10-29T06:20:09.085-07:00Comments on Icing on the Cake: True Love Waits And Virgin Gates: 5 Harmful Messages Purity Culture Taught MeHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17146959036685280439noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-8039048753420967282017-07-24T12:06:41.332-07:002017-07-24T12:06:41.332-07:00So good! So good! Alinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17499477172372771689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-89800914538437854602016-09-19T16:03:44.929-07:002016-09-19T16:03:44.929-07:00Hi Heather, I read this post while nodding my head...Hi Heather, I read this post while nodding my head the whole time. I wasn't raised in a very religious family (although I did go to church every weekend and attended Sunday School with my Brownie troop, sort of like girl guides?) I was raised by my Gramma who was a wonderful woman, I adored her. She was very strict though. There was no grey area, things were right or wrong. I developed early (I got my first bra at the age of 11 - not fun.) I always knew there was a certain way to dress to be considered "decent", vests were worn on top of bras and under clothes, no bare shoulders ever and Skirts which showed knees might bring about the end of the world! I can remember once coming home from school on a horribly warm summer day from school at the age of around 14, I'd loosened my tie and undone just the very top button (the collar button) of my school blouse, you could barely see my neck, nothing else. I was still wearing my cardigan which was all fastened (it could be hotter than hell itself and I wouldn't have taken off my cardy)and was carrying my blazer well Gramma yelled at me! She called me a word I don't like to hear used even now (altho she was sorry later and explained) but at time she was so angry. That really hurt me, I loved her more than anyone else and what she thought of me mattered. She told me men would think "dirty thoughts" and I wouldn't be safe. I know she only wanted to keep me safe but it had a very profound affect on me. Looking back I can see that although she was trying to protect me. Rosie's Cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08607490839144049343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-69667779959794034602015-08-27T21:32:02.697-07:002015-08-27T21:32:02.697-07:00Bunny! Thank you for commenting!!! And also I'...Bunny! Thank you for commenting!!! And also I'm glad it made you laugh because I wanted it to be funny too! Love youoxoxoxHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17146959036685280439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-18595104238774729432015-08-03T17:17:30.106-07:002015-08-03T17:17:30.106-07:00I love this!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!...I love this!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I was laughing so hard at some points because I can completely identity! Your words exposed the myth while revealing truth. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07022047778300271124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-1689829609558189362015-08-03T17:16:37.090-07:002015-08-03T17:16:37.090-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07022047778300271124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-56656246224051225492015-07-11T12:04:06.892-07:002015-07-11T12:04:06.892-07:00Thank you for reading Jessica! I am always so happ...Thank you for reading Jessica! I am always so happy to see your comments. And yes, "under-represented" is a good word choice! There are extremes on either side for sure when it comes to sexuality and our bodies!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17146959036685280439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-38617554380223299122015-07-11T12:02:43.852-07:002015-07-11T12:02:43.852-07:00Thank you!!! Thank you for your encouragement and ...Thank you!!! Thank you for your encouragement and I agree....somewhere amidst the maze is what God created for us which is free of shame and rigid standards and entitlement. Also I AM SO HAPPY YOU REMEMBER THE MOVIE! Congie!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17146959036685280439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-15832033035060742182015-07-11T12:01:16.554-07:002015-07-11T12:01:16.554-07:00Thanks Elise. That's so encouraging to hear :)...Thanks Elise. That's so encouraging to hear :)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17146959036685280439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-45149740262464879652015-07-10T14:55:06.406-07:002015-07-10T14:55:06.406-07:00THANK. YOU. HEATHER. These are such under-represen...THANK. YOU. HEATHER. These are such under-represented and true perspectives. Finding a healthy, biblical way to exist at peace in this body can be such a challenge.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17977645612689684994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-1179973322557002442015-07-10T13:35:39.738-07:002015-07-10T13:35:39.738-07:00So good!!!!!! This is spot on. Having grown up in ...So good!!!!!! This is spot on. Having grown up in the 'purity culture' myself, I couldn't agree more. I think we will continue to have to reverse the negative messages we believe that came through some of this. Although good intentions you are so right on about the negative impact it can have, completely different from God's true design for purity and romantic relationships and marriage. You should write a book about this! P.S. my favorite part that I LOLED at was your * about the movie at the end. LOL LOL LOL. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05519274382623985452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138468854868744169.post-40761212391467377692015-07-10T13:18:47.981-07:002015-07-10T13:18:47.981-07:00Heather. Well done. I always love reading what you...Heather. Well done. I always love reading what you have to say.<br /><br /><3Elisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12727965978418767480noreply@blogger.com